12.02.2003
Gauge That Shit!!
You know you ought to slow down | You been working too hard and that's a fact | Sit back and relax a while | Take some time to laugh and smile ~ SOS Band, Take Your Time (Do it Right)
I used to run into relationships heart wide open ready to give the intended recipient everything I had to give and more. It’s no wonder I found myself picking my heart up off the floor one too many times.
I’m not sure where some of us got it from, but I’d sure like to know: When did we learn to give more than we had, while accepting less than we deserved. When did we start believing by giving, giving, giving—our partner will in-turn give, give, give. Don’t get me wrong, some do…but then there are a hell of a lot that don’t. Some people are out, just to get, that’s it, and when they run into someone that’s more than willing to give—shittttttt hot damn ho’ here we go again!
I’m one of those people. I love to give. I love to share. But it took me a long time to realize not everyone is out to benefit Christopher David. They’re not out to make sure I succeed, or feel good about myself, or in some cases, feel good about them. Their main concern is to ensure their safe travel through this cold, cold, bitter, frustrating world. Which in and of itself is perfectly alright, but do you have to trample all over me in the process?
In a day and age where relationships end, faster than they begin I do believe that it is imperative to get to know the person you are seriously pursuing. By get to know, I mean get to know! Their likes, dislikes, comfort zones, future plans—because there is nothing worse than getting with someone who appears to have it goin’ on, only to find out they’re only one paycheck away from moving in with you and your mama!
Gauge that shit. Talk. Hold out on sex. (That’s right I said it!!) Get to know the them they’re too ashamed to show you upfront, before you start moving all kinds of mountains to be with them. Because, fuckin’ with the wrong mofo you might end up with a hernia, or, at the very least a really, really, really fucked up back.
The truth is, finding someone to love is easy. Finding someone you’re compatible with, well…that’s another story all together. That’s why *duh* you’ve got to gauge that shit!
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Christopher David will be signing copies of his debut novel, I'm On My Way this week 12.4.2003 @ 275 Grand, Bar and Cafe 7pm (275 Grand Avenue | Between Lafayette and Clifton Place | Brooklyn, New York) and 12.5.2003 @ Browstone Books 7pm (409 Lewis Avenue | Between Decatur and Macon Street | Brooklyn, New York)
I used to run into relationships heart wide open ready to give the intended recipient everything I had to give and more. It’s no wonder I found myself picking my heart up off the floor one too many times.
I’m not sure where some of us got it from, but I’d sure like to know: When did we learn to give more than we had, while accepting less than we deserved. When did we start believing by giving, giving, giving—our partner will in-turn give, give, give. Don’t get me wrong, some do…but then there are a hell of a lot that don’t. Some people are out, just to get, that’s it, and when they run into someone that’s more than willing to give—shittttttt hot damn ho’ here we go again!
I’m one of those people. I love to give. I love to share. But it took me a long time to realize not everyone is out to benefit Christopher David. They’re not out to make sure I succeed, or feel good about myself, or in some cases, feel good about them. Their main concern is to ensure their safe travel through this cold, cold, bitter, frustrating world. Which in and of itself is perfectly alright, but do you have to trample all over me in the process?
In a day and age where relationships end, faster than they begin I do believe that it is imperative to get to know the person you are seriously pursuing. By get to know, I mean get to know! Their likes, dislikes, comfort zones, future plans—because there is nothing worse than getting with someone who appears to have it goin’ on, only to find out they’re only one paycheck away from moving in with you and your mama!
Gauge that shit. Talk. Hold out on sex. (That’s right I said it!!) Get to know the them they’re too ashamed to show you upfront, before you start moving all kinds of mountains to be with them. Because, fuckin’ with the wrong mofo you might end up with a hernia, or, at the very least a really, really, really fucked up back.
The truth is, finding someone to love is easy. Finding someone you’re compatible with, well…that’s another story all together. That’s why *duh* you’ve got to gauge that shit!
_______________________________
Christopher David will be signing copies of his debut novel, I'm On My Way this week 12.4.2003 @ 275 Grand, Bar and Cafe 7pm (275 Grand Avenue | Between Lafayette and Clifton Place | Brooklyn, New York) and 12.5.2003 @ Browstone Books 7pm (409 Lewis Avenue | Between Decatur and Macon Street | Brooklyn, New York)
